I am not you – Inspiring stories of real women
Amitha Singh - Client Services Director & Digital Strategist
All of 37 years old, versatility and logical thinking has helped Amitha in both her professional and personal life. She describes herself as a resilient single mother and a thorough marketing professional who has a passion for writing, reading, traveling, cooking, eating, football and kids!
My life is my inspiration !
I have been that little girl who trusted and lost, who grew up too early for her age, who always had a smile on her face while she wore borrowed & faded clothes to school. I have been that teenage girl who began working when she turned 18, curbing her dreams of going to college. I have been that working professional who did a kick-ass job every time but had to feel apologetic every time she had to take a day off for her daughter’s PTA meeting. I have been that neurotic single mom who has screamed and yelled, who has sometimes felt so exhausted at the end of a day because she just wants to put her feet up & relax. I have been that little girl who made friends easily, who played every sport in school, who was forever the tomboy. I have been that teenage girl who bought her first bike with her own money, who wasn’t afraid to ride home at midnight every day after work, who had her first drink when she was 18. I have been that working professional who brought in happiness and cheer to work, who was always there to help out, who made friends out of colleagues. I have been that friend who’s always there, who always called her friends to wish them happy birthday. I have been that single mom who never tires of making her daughter laugh in all the strangest ways, who cooks her heart out because she knows her daughter will wallop a dish, who never tires of telling her daughter she loves her. I am not you & my life over 37 years has been my inspiration!
Ankita Banerjee-Freelance Writer and student
Ankita is from the City of Joy. She is a fanatic of creative writing, adherent of women power and a ruthless dreamer.
A fragment of ME
I survived through the dark corners of childhood and days of triviality. Uprooted from the ‘home’ and imported to the land of skyscrapers in search of possession – I survived. The rage of teenage love smudged the pages of fairytale scribble, but I survived. The back was placed against the wall but the gut remained still and I survived. The struggle with the world outside increased in twofold and trials to prove devotion for the family continued. The faith on the idea of ‘faith’ came and went away. But I discovered a way in between and I survived. The body developed a shield to the constant heat but the heart still gets burnt and I survived. Every time they said the bad words, every time they mocked, every time I got ditched the strive only increased. I have what I am proud of and no, you can never identify yourself with me. I am more than what your mirror can handle. I am more real what your idea of reality can consume. My sword has the power your duplicity can ever handle. I survived through the boulders with the dignity intact when you remained busy piling-up the sheets of sham. I have the face of poise and I am not YOU.
Manorma is a homemaker based in the beautiful city of temples, Bhubaneswar. She enjoys gardening and has a neatly manicured lawn and a garden. She loves cookery contests and chatting with her grandchildren via Skype.
I’m ME and only ME not YOU
I am a grand mother, mother, mother-in-law, daughter, daughter-law,wife, sister, friend, homemaker and many more to different people that I have met and come across in my life. I strongly believe in what I do. I can be the care-giver and builder and at the same time if confronted, can be the destroyer. I proud to be a woman and love my feminine power .I have a voice and also the right to make my own choice. I am me and only me not you and with the strength and potential that I have and believe … I can do everything possible on this Earth…only if I choose to do….bcoz I consider myself to be the most beautiful creation of God on Earth.
Saakshi Jain- Legal professional
Saakshi is corporate lawyer by education, a content manager for a website. She believes that nothing is impossible to achieve, as long as one believes in themself. She is also absolutely thrilled about beginning the most beautiful chapter of her life as a Bride this November !
I am WOMAN. Need I say more?
She is a child who loves to be pampered, a mother who knows how to love unconditionally, a dreamer who believes in a better tomorrow, a nurturer who shows the way, a guiding star to the people around her, a ray of sunshine in d dark times, and a moon whose beauty you cant help but admire…She is WOMAN. Success, fame and money are not the core of her existence; they are merely a byproduct of following her passions. Marriage is not her sole purpose in life…marriage is just her commitment to forever after love…She does not crave for attention. She craves for acceptance. She is WOMAN. She cries when she is sad, and cries harder when she is happy. She likes it when she wins, and loves it when she lets you win. She smiles when she is applauded, and jumps with joy when you are applauded. She is WOMAN. She is rich, she is famous, she is beautiful…the world dies to see a glimpse of her…All she silently longs for someone who will love her when she is neither rich, nor famous nor beautiful…someone who will wake her up at 3 am to tell her how beautiful she looks in her messy hair, crumpled nightdress and swollen eyes…She longs for the One who will make the wait worth it… She is WOMAN. She is Strong, she is invincible, she is WOMAN. I am WOMAN. Not like YOU, not YOU, just the best version of what I can be
Nayana - Research Officer
Nayana is a true survivor and works as a research officer. She has found the Essence of Life by finding herself.
I Found ME
Yes! I Found Me! Because it does not matter ‘what I am not’ what matters is ‘What I am’. From a carefree, happy young girl who grew up in a protected environment, life has taught me much after I got married. Life was fine for two years and then chaos descended in the form of kidney failure. My husband ailed for almost nine years which brought with it surgeries, heart blocks, cataracts and cancer till he passed away five years ago. A shy young woman turned mature overnight – learned to survive in a new place, speak a new language, balance work, hospital, home and finances. The next phase was when my husband passed on I had to choose what I would do. Being alone was scary. I could choose the easy path – go back and live with my parents or – the not so easy path – stay and prove to myself that I was strong enough to eke it out on my own which included paying back the heavy debts incurred during the illness. When I look back to the past years I now realize that I proved the latter true. Though I am not so many things that I would like to be – I am glad that ‘I AM ME’ as I now know that there is no one else like me. Being a woman is one of God’s greatest gifts. Every woman has it in her to achieve whatever she aspires for. YOU are the Essence of Life – Look at all that you have achieved as a mother , sister, wife, a daughter, friend, a boss, homemaker, a career woman from a village, a town or a city and say ‘Yes I Have Found Me’.
Dr. Rincy Rinny P. - Counselor
I am me
Hell ya!! I am me…..I am not you There is no escaping the fact that I am a regular neurotic of a woman, although I do possess a spirit of the highest quality elastic and will power with the tensile strength of steel. Life has provided me with hell, glimpses of heaven and a persisting realm of purgatory. It’s good and comforting and gives me a sense of belonging. I am you in a number of ways from the petty moments of bitching about a girlfriend’s new hair style and tight dress to the profound moments of wisdom when we can truly help the same friend endure a loss …….nevertheless, I’m not you. I am me by the virtue of the uniqueness of my looks, my being, my accomplishments, failures (phew! quite a few there), my life……above all MY CHOICES.
Shalini Sridhar -Project Leader
Shalini is a Computer Science and Bioinformatics graduate. While not working, She loves to travel to new places, meet new people, devour books whenever she gets time off, and more. She also believes that everyday is an adventure.
I am who I am
I am who I am. I am the daughter, the friend, the wife, the niece, the corporate gal. My life revolves around my family, friends and my work. I am a love-aholic. I love life to the fullest. I am the loyal shoulder to ease your worries. I am the top class chef to try new recipes. I am the avid book reader who can’t sleep before reading at night. I am the woman who thinks every day, minute and second of life should be cherished. I am the woman who knows good things happen to those who believe in it. I am the star who has a smile for everyone. I am who I am. I am not you.
Geetha Sridhar - Teacher
My little angel Sharu
Sharu came to me with her eyes wide with expectation. Dad, I want to have my head shaved off, this Sunday!’ was her demand. Sharu, your wish will be fulfilled.’ With her head clean-shaven, Sharu had a round-face, and her eyes looked big and beautiful. On Monday morning, I dropped her at her school. It was a sight to watch my hairless Sharu walking towards her classroom. She turned around and waved. I waved back with a smile. Just then, a boy got down from a car, and shouted, ‘Sharu, please wait for me!’ What struck me was the hairless head of that boy. ‘May be, that is the in-stuff’, I thought. ‘Sir, your daughter Sharu is great indeed!’ Without introducing herself, a lady got out of the car, and continued,’ That boy who is walking along with your daughter is my son Harish. He is suffering from leukemia.’ She paused to muffle her sobs. Harish could not attend the school for the whole of the last month. He lost all his hair due to the side effects of the chemotherapy. He refused to come back to school fearing the unintentional but cruel teasing of the schoolmates. ‘Sarada sridhar visited him last week, and promised him that she will take care of the teasing issue. But, I never imagined she would sacrifice her lovely hair for the sake of my son! Sir, you and your wife are blessed to have such a noble soul as your daughter.’ I stood transfixed. And then, I wept. ‘My little Angel, you are teaching me how self-less real love is!’
Anuradha Chandrashekar - Full Time MOM
My Artivist daughter
Being a Mom in today’s world is the most challenging job I think. My 18 year old daughter is an Artivist as she like to call herself. She has been contributing her artwork to help raise awareness and funds for many national & international organizations globally on many issues the world faces today since the age of 10. Armed with a 1000 watt smile and a brush she tackles issues connected to health, humanitarian and the environment. She has brought cheer into many lives and also educated many ignorant souls through her artwork which speak for her. She was the youngest participant at the World Economic Forum, Davos, Switzerland 2011 where she got to share her art and space with many eminent global leaders. Its really been rewarding to be blessed with a kid who thinks that ‘Change begins with each one of us’. A crusader for Women’s empowerment, and many many issues that we women are plagued today. She marches on to tackle them. Good Luck kid and keep smiling. You are the Young Women of TODAY.